To the Annonomous one!

This is a post I am unhappy about having to write. I have tried to be nice to the nasty people who leave comments under ‘anonymous’ titles, and not just to me either. A few of my good blogging friends have been plagued by them and there unnecessary comments.

Well today just topped it off for me. Mic rung me and said “Someones unhappy with you on your blog. A anon commenter has left a note basically saying you have ripped someones designs off with your clay tags. How can they say that? What are you going to write back?”

Here is what I am going to write.

I HAVE BEEN MAKING THESE CLAY TAGS NOW SINCE I STARTED WITH MY CHRISTMAS RANGE THE FIRST YEAR I OPENED MY STORE. THE FIRST ONE SOLD ON THE 13TH NOV 2008 AND HAD BEEN IN THE MAKING SINCE THE MAY OF 2008…AND I HAVE PROOF, LOADS AND LOADS OF IT IN FACT!! AS FOR THE BLOGGER YOU BOUGHT THEM OFF, I HAVE NOT COPIED ANY ONES DESIGNS AND HAVE WORKING DRAWINGS (AS WITH THE COPYRIGHT POLICY) SHOWING THAT MY IDEAS ARE REAL AND HAVE COME FROM ME, NO ONE ELSE. I WORK HARD TO KEEP THINGS IN MY STORE FRESH AND SPEND HOURS AND HOURS SKETCHING, DESIGNING AND MAKING SAMPLES BEFORE YOU GET THEM IN THE SHOP. I DO USE SOME STAMPS THAT ANYONE CAN BUY AT TIMES, BUT THE OVERALL DESIGN OF HOW IT IS PUT TOGETHER IS MINE, THE DESIGNS ARE MINE.

I HAVEN’T SEEN ANYTHING ELSE LIKE IT ABOUT, SO MAYBE THEY COPIED ME, DID YOU THINK ABOUT THAT BEFORE YOU WROTE YOUR NASTY COMMENT? GET PROOF FIRST!!

IF YOU WOULD LIKE TO LET ME KNOW WHO YOU BOUGHT THEM OFF I WILL HAVE A LOOK, BUT TO JUST COME HERE AND SLANDER ME ABOUT IT WITHOUT GETTING ANY FACTS FIRST HAS REALLY TICKED ME OFF. MY BLOG WAS NEVER MEANT FOR THIS AND AS OF TODAY I WILL NO LONGER BE ACCEPTING ANON COMMENTS. IF YOU HAVE THE GUTS TO SEND ME AN EMAIL WITH YOUR NAME ATTACHED I CAN TALK TO YOU ABOUT IT THERE…NOT HERE. THERE ARE A FEW NASTY ONES GOING ABOUT HARASSING OTHER BLOGGERS. JUST KNOW IT DOESN’T BOTHER ME, I JUST HATE THE FACT YOU HAVE NO PROOF AND HAVE JUST TRIED TO SLANDER MY GOOD NAME AND DIDN’T EVEN HAVE THE GUTS TO PUT YOUR NAME TO IT – CHICKEN!!
….OVER IT!!!
and that is all I will say!
To the other anon commenter’s (the lovely ones) I am so sorry that a few nasty spoilsports have stopped you being able to comment, but this blog is a creative outlet for me and I get so much from it and all of you beautiful people out there that I will be damned if they spoil it for me…I am stronger than that.

Ness xx

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68 Responses to To the Annonomous one!
  1. Kyandra
    July 7, 2010 | 7:19 am

    Good on you Ness….cant’ believe people can be so spiteful! We love your gorgeous tags and wouldn’t believe any one that can say such a thing..delete, delete, delete those nasties I say! Your work is sensational….Take care Kym X

  2. Kay
    July 7, 2010 | 7:20 am

    go girl…. my daughter has this problem all the time…there are alway those who have no creative talent and steal it from others and then pass it off as there own…as long as you are true to yourself it is the others who have the guilty concsience(sp?)…xx

  3. Jane
    July 7, 2010 | 7:21 am

    hi Ness

    That is really very upsetting but I am sure it felt better to write a Shouty Post, good on you.

    I personally believe that if anyone feels the need to say something mean they should do so by putting their name to it. The same thing goes for those awful people who make bitchy comments on newspaper stories about celebrities and politicians. Anonymity seems to encourage bad behaviour.

    At the end of the day it takes about 30 seconds to set up a google account, so it shouldn’t be a hardship for people to do that. xoxo

  4. Kerri
    July 7, 2010 | 7:25 am

    Ah Ness, my philosophy is that an anonymous complaint/nasty comment can’t be taken seriously. If the person doesn’t have the guts to sign their name, then why should you give them the time of day. Unfortunately, there are lots of bitter and twisted people with far too much time on their hands, and their only enjoyment is making others miserable. Pay them no attention and don’t waste another minute thinking about them – they’re so not worth it. And don’t let them win by getting upset – that’s exactly what they want. Those who know you and your lovely blog know the truth, and of course so do you, and that’s really all that matters. We all love you and your gorgeous work, so forget all about the nasties and keep doing what you do best. Take care sweetpea, and keep the faith! K xx

  5. Samantha2818
    July 7, 2010 | 7:28 am

    Good for you! Funny how the people with nasty things to say never choose to show themselves! Says it all!
    ~Sam

  6. Tina
    July 7, 2010 | 7:32 am

    Hi sweet Ness. I am really sorry that this anonymous commenter has decided that cyber-bullying is acceptable. I am so proud of you for writing this post, but also sad that someone’s rudeness and nastiness has forced you to have to defend yourself. They should be ashamed of their bullying behaviour, and to hide behind their anonymity is incredibly rude. You are a lovely, talented and creative woman Ness and we love YOUR tags and everything you do my friend. Put this nastiness out of your mind and focus on all the loveliness. Hugs ~ Tina xx

  7. Karyn
    July 7, 2010 | 7:36 am

    You know what they said is not true & the people that follow your blog know it. Shame on anonymous !
    I have purchased your tags before & I love them.
    Karyn x

  8. DustyLu
    July 7, 2010 | 7:36 am

    Hey Ness! I believe that if you cant put your name behind you thoughts, belief, ideas and values then they are not valid. Don’t worry about jealous people out there that are so unhappy with themselves and can’t stand to see other people doing well. Your awesome! Your art and work is one-of-a-kind. I am so glad you expressed your thoughts! I have your back~Lulu

  9. Signe Hill´s
    July 7, 2010 | 7:40 am

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  10. Mokzan
    July 7, 2010 | 7:43 am

    I agree, if you cant say it and stand for it with your namne, it dosn´t count, its patetic.
    I was in a concrete challange here in Sweden and and during a couple of weeks you sent pictures of your work to the company who arranged the challange. But as it happens a few of the ideas were similar and one of the contestor went mad and said it was cheating. But in real life two people can actually come up with similar ideas, there are pretty many creative people on earth and it would be strange if sometimes not things would look alittle same. Keep up your creative and beatiful work, greetings from Sweden =)

  11. Lyn
    July 7, 2010 | 7:57 am

    Dear Anon,
    Jealous, much?

    xx Lyn

  12. Genevieve
    July 7, 2010 | 7:58 am

    I am an avid follower of your blog :-) I’ve never left a comment before but today I think it is needed… Don’t let those nasty comments get to you! Your tags are beautiful and as long as you know in your heart that the designs you make are yours there’s no need to take notice.

    I’m a huge fan of your work!
    So from a South African jewellery designer BIG HUGS and have a beautiful day! :-)

  13. Catherine
    July 7, 2010 | 8:03 am

    So Sorry you had to receive such unnecessary comments! There are obviously some very jealous & unhappy people about!
    You have a huge band of supporters who all love your work & blog! I am one of them – I love to see an update from you in my sidebar!:) xx

  14. Lynda
    July 7, 2010 | 8:04 am

    *HIGH FIVE*!!!!!

  15. Simone - honeyandfizz
    July 7, 2010 | 8:11 am

    Ness, don’t let the jealous haters ruin the enjoyment you get from your blog and creating your lovely work. Xx

  16. Vårt liv i norr
    July 7, 2010 | 8:38 am

    It made me really sad to read that some idiots have written these nasty things to you! :(

    You have a lovely blog and your tags are really nice, I wish I could make beautiful things like you…

    hugs
    helena

  17. Julienne
    July 7, 2010 | 8:47 am

    Some people just have nothing better to do!!!!
    Whilst I think we all appreciate comments that disagree with us on occasion and challenge some of our ideas, there is no room for nastiness, now or ever!
    You just keep on doing what you are doing and keep on enjoying it and the rest of us ‘nice ones’ will keep on enjoying it too! xx

  18. Fabulously french
    July 7, 2010 | 8:55 am

    Ness how does that saying go….something along the lines of sticks and stones will break my bones but names will never hurt me. I hate such nastiness and it would make me sick knowing that such a nasty comment was on my blog so reply and then hit delete.

    We all know the truth so are all behind you 100%.

    Bisous, Leeann

  19. Paint Me White
    July 7, 2010 | 9:09 am

    HI Ness, go get em girl.
    Sandy x

  20. janine
    July 7, 2010 | 9:12 am

    Hey Ness,
    You go girl!!!!! Let them have it with both barrels!!! Dealing with nasty people is life’s unpleasant side as far as I’m concerned. A few people certainly ruin it for the vast majority and think they can hide behind the anon with the nasty venom they like to spread. So I understand why you have done what you’ve done. As of this afternoon I now have a google account (yes, I know you are now clapping your hands in excitement (hahaha). It didn’t take me long did it, oh only a year or so. Anyway, better go…will see you tomorrow!!!! Have a good one.
    Take care
    Janine
    XXOO
    N.W. Coast Tassie

  21. Pink Princess
    July 7, 2010 | 9:12 am

    GOOD FOR YOU!! ♥♥

  22. Chani
    July 7, 2010 | 9:25 am

    I’m sure it’s not even true and this person wanted to provoke a post like the one you just posted. Just ignore them, I’d say. All the best!

  23. Mirela
    July 7, 2010 | 9:27 am

    GOOD FOR YOU SWEETIE!!!! i love your work and i wouldn’t worry what other people say,they just need to get a life xxx

  24. Rosebud and Bluebells
    July 7, 2010 | 9:33 am

    Hi Ness,
    You don’t know me but I too follow your blog and am sorry that you have been subjected to this. I say good on you for having the courage to take a stand and put this anonymous commenter back in their place. Keep doing what you do because we all love your blog and celebrate your creativitiy with you.
    Donna xx

  25. VINTAGE
    July 7, 2010 | 10:09 am

    On German blog currently is no different. Good ideas and photos are stolen and envy is very large. The comments are sometimes impossible.

    Don’t be angry – in Intenet live many idiots!

    Beso

    VINTAGE

  26. Ness Lockyer
    July 7, 2010 | 10:12 am

    I just wanted to say thankyou SOOOO much from the bottom of my heart for your understanding and support on this. I was in two minds on whether to do this post or not, but was just fed up with such bitchiness on not only my blog, but some other lovly blogs. Some of the other bloggers affected were even thinking of shuting down their gorgeous blogs because of this and believe me, if you knew whos blog I was talking about, you would be MAD. So, I thought I would take the stand. I am one of those people that can take alot, but push to far……
    thanks anyway, I appreciate it heaps!
    Ness xx

  27. Anna
    July 7, 2010 | 10:16 am

    Like water off a ducks back lovely !!…those who followed and KNOW YOU…know that you are the real deal darling.

    I never..and still dont know why people CHOOSE to follow Anonymously???
    Why Blog?

    Brush this off now…and dont spend another minute allowing it to affect you in any negative way! All is well in your world xo

  28. Knicky Knacks
    July 7, 2010 | 10:23 am

    Here, here sista. My goodness, all that CAPS LOCK and I was wondering if you were going to take a breath. Clearly upset – totally understood. Just remember, for every weirdo, moron anon blogger, there’s about 150 profile bloggers that love your work and your unique creativity. Don’t let the one bozo get under your skin. Unfortunately I’m sure there’s plenty more like them. Rise above it and push one. We are all behind you.

  29. Razmataz
    July 7, 2010 | 10:31 am

    Ness, I think it is good that you addressed the issue. I do wonder though about the Anons motive. Think of how many people will go to Etsy to look up clay tags to see the “other” ones.

    “Stupid Cow” I say to her.

  30. Sarah B
    July 7, 2010 | 10:31 am

    You tell’em Ness! It really does not matter what a silly anonymous blogger says but I’m glad that you stood up for yourself :)

  31. A-M
    July 7, 2010 | 10:38 am

    Ness, the bad news is that if the ‘anons’ are persistent, they will just create new google ID’s to get to you. I have some doozys attacking me. Don’t let them get to you. Stay lovely. We love you. They have no life and are just totally jealous of your success and passion for life… to be a nasty commenter you have to be I reckon! A-M xx

  32. KarenSue
    July 7, 2010 | 10:47 am

    They would win if you stopped blogging and we would not win.
    I can’t believe there are so many mean people out there. I don’t know you but I’m so proud of you because you are standing up for yourself and many others.
    Just breath and enjoy your day!
    KarenSue

  33. awal.ny
    July 7, 2010 | 10:49 am

    I just wanted to let you know that it is not ok for anyone to just put nasty comments because they can with or without an anon. Follow the old rules, if you do not have something nice to say don’t say it. It is terrible that people think they can do this to others. I think you have a beautiful blog and I know there are more of us than the others.

  34. Roseny Crisp
    July 7, 2010 | 11:08 am

    Não se preocupe amamos seu trabalho e seu blog
    Abraços
    `··._.·♥·.¸¸♥♥

    Do not worry love your work and your blog
    Hugs
    `··._.·♥·.¸¸♥♥

  35. marci
    July 7, 2010 | 11:12 am

    Well said! :) Blogging is supposed to be a fun and happy place to share all of the wonderful things you make and love. Don’t let them ruin it for you. I love your blog!

  36. Meander
    July 7, 2010 | 11:20 am

    Right on sista!!! Great come-back! You rock! Just ignore the haters!!! xoxo

  37. Amanda
    July 7, 2010 | 11:36 am

    You go girl! How weak is it to hide behind a computer screen with an anonymous comment. I support you all the way.

  38. Preppy Mama
    July 7, 2010 | 11:53 am

    So sorry people have nothing better to do than be spiteful. I monitor my comments because I can not tolerate the nasties!

  39. Rie
    July 7, 2010 | 11:55 am

    Sorry Ness that you had to deal with this too. :( Your clay tags are lovely. I turned off my anon comments after a couple of ugly ones too. People can be so mean.

  40. Vintage Junky
    July 7, 2010 | 11:59 am

    Someone has been mean to a fellow friend/blogger regarding copying lately. And it is so silly, we are adults, if you have something nasty to say, at least stand behind it.
    As for coming up with something first, next, or last, this is a problem that is always going to occur. Yours are quite lovely and I am sure that they are different enough from anyone else who claims that theirs were first. So, keep up the lovely work :)

  41. Maree:
    July 7, 2010 | 12:48 pm

    Love your Blog & Your Work…Sorry to hear of all the Negativity you’ve been getting…Glad you had Your Say…
    Take Care
    cheers

  42. Flick,
    July 7, 2010 | 1:00 pm

    OMG Ness! Who in the hell would be so horrible? I do not understand what the point of leaving bitchy comments would be… I have only ever seen and read beautiful, inspiring and uplifting posts from everyone, especially the insanely talented NESS! They can get stuffed, and I hope they read all this and know that we pity their pathetic selves, and realize how much we all love and support everything you do!
    Good on you for speaking out, keep up your fantastic ORIGINAL work!
    Sending you lots of positive love..
    Hugs,
    Flick

  43. Amy Kinser
    July 7, 2010 | 1:53 pm

    I can’t understand why people feel the need to be mean, ugly, disrespectful and unkind. We are supposed to lift each other up not tear one another down. I am sorry for people who don’t live by that.

    As a follower of yours, I think your gifts and talents are incredible!

  44. Jane, Naples, Florida
    July 7, 2010 | 2:51 pm

    Ness, I just read this and I feel
    terrible about what this nasty
    blogger put you through. Your
    answer was perfect! You are
    successful and happy, and some
    people are just plain jealous!

    I love your blog, it is my
    continuing inspiration!

    Jane
    Flora Doora

  45. I’m so sorry Ness! You have so much talent and a heart full of gold!
    Those who won’t put a name behind their comment are nothing! Pay no attention, I know it’s hard I just had my first mean Anon comment yesterday. I hit delete and went on my way. I figured 1 in 6 months isn’t bad, I’ve heard of other bloggers having this problem, it breaks my heart.
    Keep your head up high don’t let the nasty mean spirited people get to you! Hugs your way and lots of love!
    Kristin

  46. I’m so sorry Ness! You have so much talent and a heart full of gold!
    Those who won’t put a name behind their comment are nothing! Pay no attention, I know it’s hard I just had my first mean Anon comment yesterday. I hit delete and went on my way. I figured 1 in 6 months isn’t bad, I’ve heard of other bloggers having this problem, it breaks my heart.
    Keep your head up high don’t let the nasty mean spirited people get to you! Hugs your way and lots of love!
    Kristin

  47. Hirondelle Rustique
    July 7, 2010 | 6:19 pm

    Well said! I had to disable anon comments on my blog because I kept getting so much spam, but I’m surprised someone would take the time to harass you like that. Glad you could put a stop to it!

  48. Karla @ {The Classy Woman}
    July 7, 2010 | 8:56 pm

    I’m sorry to hear that this has happened. I have been hearing about this happening to several other bloggers.

    I have thought several times about whether anonymous comments are necessary on my blog but with certain topics, I like to allow my readers their privacy but still share their thoughts. I would have done the same thing though. Nobody needs that. Insecurity and jealousy seem to be the root of all evil in the blogging world.

    I have noticed that a lot of nasty comments made usually come from those that are jealous or insecure (it could have even come from another clay tag vendor herself). Good for you for rising about it all!

  49. Melanie
    July 7, 2010 | 11:34 pm

    Bless your heart, Ness!! I think you speak for all of us and I for one, appreciate you doing it with such passion and spunk!!! :-)

    So sorry that you have had to endure someone’s ignorance but happy to know that your lovely blog will continue to be a source of inspiration for so many!

    Blessings to you!
    Melanie

  50. Sandy
    July 7, 2010 | 11:50 pm

    I guess since you have gotten nasty comments you must say something on your blog.. can’t e them back??
    Sorry you have to go through that!
    Maybe they will give up now?
    Sandy
    thewondersofdoing@blogspot.com

  51. white cat vintage
    July 8, 2010 | 12:02 am

    Insecure,envious and completely weak. What these people clearly don’t realise is that their nasty comments reveal more about their own personality then the person’s they’re slandering. My blog is not popular enough to receive any negative comments Hehe,but if it did I think id take it as a compliment.Someone is clearly jealous of your talent. We love you, we love your work, you are an inspiration. xx

  52. Carissa
    July 8, 2010 | 2:27 am

    Hi Ness. I think it is really sad that some people are so small minded and spiteful. I, along with so many others love your blog and love your work. You are an amazingly talented girl. Take care and don’t let awful people like this get to you.
    Carissa x

  53. Jules
    July 8, 2010 | 2:45 am

    you are so creative – don’t let jealous cowards who leave anonymous comments get to you. They have nothing better to do than be negative to others in order to make themselves feel better. I love your blog and your designs – those people are petty and small!

  54. Alison
    July 8, 2010 | 6:00 am

    Well said ness

  55. Exquisite Accessories
    July 8, 2010 | 10:41 am

    Well Ness I am blown away how people can be so rude, good for you I am so glad you had a rant, go girl I love your products & your blog, I know you are the true Inspiration behind Marley & locker & so do all your many blogging friends, the Annonomous is probably the one copying you & is so jealous they cannot have your talent keep going girl stay strong :)

  56. dleahy23
    July 8, 2010 | 12:51 pm

    Ness,please don’t take the ugly to heart. You are the most lovely woman with a wonderful blog. I’ve decided that it means you have made it in this world when people start to try to tear you down! So try to look at it as a positive reminder that someone would actually be jealous!! WOO HOO! Glad you got it off your chest now don’t give it another minute of thought. <3

  57. Bert
    July 8, 2010 | 1:49 pm

    I can’t believe this sort of thing happens! I read your blog often, and love it! Why would someone even visit your blog if they did not like what you were making or writing-it’s unbelievable!

  58. Velvet and Linen
    July 9, 2010 | 12:36 am

    Oh Ness, I love your artwork and know how much of your heart and soul you put into each piece. I also know how it feels to get nasty comments. Even though I know it is illogical to be hurt by someone who doesn’t even believe in their thoughts enough to leave their name, these snarky words still sting!
    In those moments hopefully thoughts of all of us M&L fans will comfort you!
    xo
    Brooke

  59. Theresa
    July 9, 2010 | 1:47 pm

    well said… good for you. Theresa

  60. mimi charmante
    July 9, 2010 | 3:20 pm

    honestly ness, anyone who is willing to write nasty comments or emails to people – anon or not, are simply unhappy people who never learned that if you have nothing nice to say, don’t say anything at all.
    classless – simply classless. how sad to have no grace in your life…
    xx

  61. Dreamy Whites
    July 9, 2010 | 3:57 pm

    Dear Ness,
    You know how I feel about the anonymous commenters who leave nasty comments. I am sorry you had to experience this as I know how upsetting it can make you. Don’t let them get you down. You know how much I love your tags and own two of them! I haven’t EVER seen anything like them!!!!
    I hope you are having a better day today!!! I am sorry you had to experience this.
    Take Care,
    Your friend,
    Maria
    p.s. You did a great job posting about this subject too. Well said!

  62. TheVirginiaHouse
    July 9, 2010 | 4:27 pm

    That is so wrong that people would do that! I almost started getting angry too;-) Hope the ugly ones stay away!

  63. Lee
    July 10, 2010 | 6:19 am

    Dear Ness, I have always loved your work – strong, original and it always has your heart in it. Do not listen to ‘anonymous’, stay true to yourself and know that what you do is yours and yours alone.

  64. Third Avenue Style
    July 10, 2010 | 10:54 pm

    Yay for you Ness – I love your work & think you are fully justified in defending it.
    Love
    Katie

  65. Emma
    July 13, 2010 | 1:49 am

    What a shame that you had to go through that, I agree though, our blogs are for the pretty things and sinister comments just tarnish what we are tying to achieve here. Chin up, and keep up the good work Ness xx

  66. Debbie~
    July 19, 2010 | 4:36 am

    Well said! I looove your spirit! Debbie @ Cottage Hann~Me~Downs

  67. Nur
    August 11, 2010 | 9:46 am

    Off topic. Just out of curiosity, can you do international shipping for your clay tag?

  68. Mom to Many
    August 17, 2010 | 8:21 pm

    You go girl! :o)

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